Few more smugly satisfying experiences in life exist than when you’re able to tell someone else, “I told you so.”
If you’re humble enough to not say the words out loud, I’m sure you’ve likely thought them. Maybe you gave a knowing nod to the person about whom you were right. Maybe the other person even acknowledged your correct assumptions: “Yeah, I know, you told me this would happen. You were right.”
Sometimes, though not very often, our assumptions and intuitions about people and situations turn out to be true.
Sometimes the spouse working longer hours than normal is having an affair.
Sometimes the note, “Meet me in my office,” does mean you’re about to get canned.
Sometimes a lingering glance from an attractive person does mean they want to go out with you.
In my posts and in The Stories We Tell Ourselves, I focus on the fact that our assumptions and intuition tend to lead us astray. In other words, what we think will happen seldom happens, and when it doesn’t happen according to the script our minds have already written, we experience stress and heightened relational anxiety.
More often than not, this is what happens in our daily lives, and this is what contributes to so much of the chaos in our circumstances and relationships. That’s why I focus on how you can get rid of the stories you tell yourself and seek after the truth of every concerning situation or area of relational conflict.
But what if the stories you’ve been telling yourself are the truth of what’s going on?
What if you’re right?
Stay tuned. We’ll discuss an answer to that question in the next post.