Do you jump to conclusions without having all the information? Do you search for answers that only leave you more anxious? Do your relationships suffer from false assumptions and unnecessary guessing games?
If so, you’re not alone. Every day, we make up remarkable stories.
But these stories aren’t simply inaccurate; they can be harmful–isolating us and causing damage to our relationships.
Drawing on more than 20 years of research and experience helping thousands of individuals transform their lives, Gornto has developed a series of innovative principles that you can start using today to break the spell of these powerful—and powerfully harmful—stories.
Engaging and illuminating, The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ will help you wake up to your own life and build the skills you need to transform your relationships with the friends, business associates, and loved ones who matter most.
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Wonderful book. I could hardly put it down. Thanks for bringing this powerful “story” to the world….Like fish discovering water, Scott Gornto helps us all discover ourselves as unconscious storytellers swimming in stories we unknowingly make up that tend to feed our anxiety about events that have not happened, and may not happen, but thinking they are descriptions of reality. Thus we are not present to our own experience or to that of others who usually are our main characters. He does not leave us there but offers a process to move from the nightmare of our imagination to reality; a way to be present to others with curiosity and without judgment. This book is for everyone because it is about everyone.
Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen Lakelly Hunt, Ph. D., co-authors Making Marriage Simple and Getting the Love You Want
I have known Scott Gornto for 40 years. His words about being a good listener instead of making assumptions are paramount in personal and professional relationships.
Nolan Ryan, Former Major League Baseball pitcher and chief executive officer of the Texas Rangers
Stories are central to our universal psyches. The Greeks gave us mythology, Jesus told parables, Grimm created fairytales, Lucas penned Star Wars, and Schultz composed the legacy of Charlie Brown. Leave it to Scott Gornto to bring “the stories we tell ourselves” to the human experience! Down-to- earth, insightful, contemporary, and refreshing, Scott leaves us with a practical psychological blueprint that can add meaning and health to our relationships and lives.
Hal Barkley, Ph.D., LMFT-S, LPC-S, Certified Sex Therapist (AASECT) and Clinical Associate Professor and Department Chair, Dispute Resolution and Counseling at Southern Methodist University (SMU)
What do healthy lives have to do with healthy relationships? How does our thinking and talking about each other affect our well-being? Therapist Scott Gornto shows us how storytelling shapes our lives and measures our wholeness.
J. Randall O’Brien, President of Carson-Newman University and former Executive Vice President and Provost of Baylor University
In “The Stories We Tell Ourselves™”, Scott Gornto shares the powerful ways we lie to ourselves and how those lies, which are often created in our heads, affect our feelings towards the people in our lives. This book walks us through the journey of awakening to those truths and growing beyond the stories we imagine to attain healthy, confident relationships.
John McKinzie, Lead Pastor, Hope Fellowship – Frisco, Texas