Great quote from Melody Beattie – A great reminder that panic is the enemy.
Show respect to earn respect.
Our assumptions and intuition tend to lead us astray.
In the next to last chapter of The Stories We Tell Ourselves, I wrote, “The reason we want to become people of presence is that it greatly increases our chances for connection, and there is nothing our souls crave more than a meaningful connection with another person.”
You may not consciously believe that, but deep within you—regardless of how introverted you may be—is a desire to truly connect with another person. That’s why I think it’s so important to practice being present so that you can one day be a person of presence. [Read more…] about The Best Gift You Can Give to Others
According to a 2015 study performed by Nottingham Trent University, 18- to 33-year-olds in England look at their phones an average of 85 times per day, or about one-third of their waking time.
The study asked participants to guess how often they looked at their phones, and then each participant’s phone had an app installed that tracked actual usage for two weeks. On the whole, people looked at their phones twice as often as they thought. More than half of those looks were for less than 30 seconds (“How often do YOU check your phone?”).
We don’t need these statistics to tell us what we already know: we are an easily distractible people. [Read more…] about A Timeless Tip for Better Presence
I find it helpful to visualize continuums for certain aspects of my life that I’d like to see change for the better. I present these continuums to my clients as well, and I’ve seen these continuums be helpful tools for them to assess themselves and figure out where they are and where they hope to be.
For instance, when I discuss what it means to graduate from sometimes being present in a relationship to being a person of presence, where being constantly “in the moment” doesn’t require as much conscious work as it once did, I use the following continuum: [Read more…] about Where Are You on the Continuum of Presence?
Recently on my blog, I discussed how you can become more present within your relationships. I suggested how you can increase your neuroplasticity to help train your brain to be more present. I gave one quick yet effective tip for increasing your self-awareness while in conversation with another person. And finally I provided a way for you to stop your mental time-traveling so that your full awareness can be focused on who’s right in front of you and not stuck in the past or yearning for the future.
I suggested these tips to help you become a more present person. If you choose to incorporate them on a daily basis within your relationships—like a regular exercise schedule—you can become a person of presence. [Read more…] about Are You a Person of Presence?