Broadly speaking, the Auxano Communication Approach© benefits people because it helps them establish and maintain healthy relationships through honest truth-seeking about a situation or a relationship.
But this communication approach I suggest to all of my clients has more specific benefits too:
1. The Auxano Communication Approach© suspends defensive behavior.
When you’re challenged to share from a deeper place, the walls around your heart must necessarily come down. Protective, defensive behaviors like control, passive-aggressiveness, and criticism are suspended so that the health of the relationship might take precedence over one’s need for emotional safety.
2. The Auxano Communication Approach© creates an environment to really know another person.
As I said in my previous post—or as Suzanne Wallace said—we need to learn how to “listen to learn and speak to be known.” Once we can do this on a consistent basis, that creates a firm foundation for healthy relationships to form and endure.
3. The Auxano Communication Approach© creates an environment to be seen and known by another person.
The best relationships require that both people are invested in and working on the relationship. In the same way that open communication by another person helps reveal them to you, your open communication likewise reveals you to them. This is the place where true connection occurs.
4. The Auxano Communication Approach© assists you in “standing on your own two feet” by calming your anger and anxiety.
Seeking to honestly engage another person can sometimes lead to conflict, but learning to stand apart from that conflict—to avoid emotional reactivity or mirroring the other person’s emotions—is a key skill in being able to communicate effectively.
To learn more about these benefits, read Chapter 13: Toward More Connection and Fulfillment in The Stories We Tell Ourselves.